This year our youngest son will be graduating from high school. We had his senior pictures taken yesterday. This has sparked another reminiscing session. So again, I appreciate your bearing with me.
Young son has always been a delight and a happy person. No matter what life throws at him, no matter how negative “the powers that be” are at school, he always smiles. No matter how “parental” I am, he smiles. I sometimes feel that his smiles do not reflect his true feelings, but his positive outlook and let it roll off the shoulder attitude is very inspirational.
His teachers comment he will never have a heart attack, he is so laid back.
He has always been very kind, generous, and thoughtful. He is seven years younger than his sister. When he was a little tike and we would be shopping, I ask if he wanted something, his first response was to get something for his sissy. When a friend of his has a birthday, he gladly gives them his own possessions. His kindness is immeasurable. He does not like to see anyone hurting or upset. I remember when he was in preschool he did not want to go because a fellow student got in trouble daily and son did not want his friend to be sad. To this day, he would rather be in a bad relationship and be unhappy than to break it off and have someone else be sad.
He has not always made the best decisions, but have any of us? I have always said, “If you live through a situation, don’t repeat the mistake, learn from it and you will be a better person because of it.”
He is an awesome self-taught musician. He has had a few piano, guitar, and voice lessons, but the majority of this progress has been though his will and determination. He can hear a song and boom he picks up his guitar or sits down at the piano and he plays the song. He will sit with his guitar and be playing. We ask what the song is and he says, “I don’t know, I just wrote it.”
His friends are very supportive of his musical ambition. He does not share a lot of interests with the students in his class. Most of them are gamers, farmers, hunters. Son has been working for the last two years. While his friends that are from farming families work, most of his friends just “enjoy”. Son started the working chapter in his life in blueberry fields. He worked from sun up until sun down. When his boss decided to open a sporting goods store, son built shelving, cleaned, painted, moved items from here to there and back again. All the while he had that awesome smile. He assisted his employer in moving his home and any other tasks that need to be done in or outside the store.
One word that comes to mind when I think of my son is honesty. If I ask him a direct question, he always tells me the truth. No matter how shocking the answer might be. Sometimes I don’t ask, because, I really don’t want to know. But this is reciprocal, when he asks me about my past, or what I think, I tell him the truth. We discuss everything from drugs, sex, work, alcohol, food, etc. I have always told him that I don’t mind being embarrassed by our conversations, I love him and respect more than my fear of embarrassment.
His graduating starts a new chapter in his life. He is planning on pursuing his music and travel. We are going to support him. We are already getting negative comments from family and people that don’t understand his uniqueness. But we believe in him and his abilities. If he wishes to attend college later that will be okay, if he does not, that will also be okay. I am proud that he has the courage to think out of the box and to follow his dreams. Maybe if more of us did this, the world would be a happier place.
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